Thursday, February 23, 2012

Father in Law

Yesterday my father in law was driving home from the credit union when he blew a stop sign.  My mother in law made a comment about "wow, we aren't stopping today?".  Then he blew another one.  And another one.  Then he stopped at a stop light and didn't know what he was doing.  My mother in law stopped at a near by house and called 911.  When they got to the ER they did a CT scan and found the brain hemorrhage.  

All last night we all sat around trying to figure out what was going on.  We were stressed out and really didn't know if John would make it through the night.  Jerry and I got home after 10:30 and ate some of the best pizza ever.  I suppose it was just because we were so hungry, but it tasted so good!

Today I made my way to the hospital to sit with my mother in law.  When I got there I got the low down on his condition.  He didn't know who his wife was.  He didn't know what glasses were, or what he was suppose to do with them.  He didn't realize he was in the hospital, and didn't know when his birthday is.  He seemed pretty groggy during the afternoon and didn't want to eat anything.  He seemed to know who I was, but he could have just been playing along.  It's hard to say.

When I went back after work Jerry was there.  They were telling me about what had happened while I was gone.  Apparently John had ripped out his IV, and took off his oxygen finger thing.  The nurses had to restrain him so that he couldn't do more harm.  He also had no idea who Judy or Jerry was.  Not much later Jim and Jack came in. ( Jack had just flown in from Mexico to be with his dad.)  They approached the bed and John had no idea who they were.  I can't even imagine what thoughts went through their minds.  He tried to talk but nothing made sense.  He can't form words or really put sentences together.  It is so sad.  

Once he was settled down, and fell asleep, we left to go home.  I can't imagine how Jerry is feeling right now, having his own father not know who he is.  It is heartbreaking I am sure.  

One thing I have learned through all of this is just how loved Jerry and I are.  I am overwhelmed by all of the support and kind words that have been shared with us through Facebook, email and phone calls.  The offers of help is also abundant and amazes me.  Your friendships mean the world to us and we feel lucky to have you in our lives! Thank you from the bottom of our hearts, for caring and being there for us in our time of need.  We love every one of you!  

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